What is Radical Pleasure? I have been exploring that question in a variety of ways to discover my answers.
One of my current favorite ways to experience Radical Pleasure is through enjoying platonic touch with my friends. I shared the early stages of my snuggle journey in my first ever blog post this past February, you can read that post here.
Since February I have made my way into many, many, cuddle puddles with friends. We stay fully clothed and before getting to the snuggles we talk as a group about boundaries, consent, and awareness around what to do when sexual energy arises. It’s perfectly natural, we are all healthy adults after all- by simply shifting positions and allowing the sexual arousal to subside.
I love giving and receiving hand, head and foot massages, as well as being so intertwined with others that I have no idea whose leg is thrown over my hips, whose hand is massaging my back, who is holding my left hand or how I’m also receiving a foot massage. I particularly enjoy a manwich (I am the small spoon for one man and big spoon for another). I love how as everyone heads home we all have a delicious oxytocin high and feel a bit love drunk.
How often do you give or receive hugs?
If you could have all the hugs you wanted, how many do you think you would want each day?
Have you ever had a long (let’s say more than 15 minutes) cuddle with someone that did not lead to sex? Did you notice how your body felt afterwards? Were you more relaxed?
What do you think it would feel like if you actually received all the hugs, cuddles and non-sexual physical contact you truly desire?
I’d love to witness you as we all need witnesses. Witnessing eliminates shame. Post in the comments with whatever you want to share of your story. I’m here to listen.
I love you fiercely,
p.s. the journey began for me when I felt my feelings within my body. Join the Feel Your Body Journey and worldwide movement to trust and love yourself again.