I am a recovering ice queen and I am thawing. I can feel the softening at a deep, cellular level. I can also feel my abdominal wall muscles knitting together; it’s similar to a corset being smoothly and slowly pulled tighter and tighter. Both my morning yoga and afternoon workout today was challenging but I felt strong the whole time. I am also experiencing a sensation midway through my lower intestines. A fullness is moving through, it feels like gas vs. something more solid. It’s probably the green smoothie, maybe kale makes me gassy. I wish I could move it through faster, but it is on it’s own time. I just have to wait it out.

I could not have imagined feeling that level of detail and comfort in my body a year ago and I thought I was pretty dialed in from all of my experience healing from chronic illness. Three years ago all I felt was varying levels of discomfort and pain. It was so familiar that at times I barely noticed it but constantly wished I could escape it. On a pain scale of 1-10 (1 being I’m in no pain, 10 is I am actively being mauled by a bear) my pain ranged from 4 to 8.

Adversarial relationship with my body

I have been both overly thin as well as borderline obese from stress, illness and system wide inflammation. I approached dieting from a disciplined (I will do this because I have to) and adversarial (I’m the boss of you (my body) and I will WIN no matter how much you fight me) perspective.  In my 20’s and half my 30’s I tried every fad diet as well as one program that actually helped: Weight Watchers. Midway through my 30’s I got back into Weight Watchers as well as started learning about healing protocols like elimination diets and the AIP (Autoimmune Protocol). I finally recognized the direct connection between how what I ate affected how I felt as well as learned healthy portion sizes. Food affected not just my muscles, joints and gut, but also my moods and brain clarity. Sometimes I got angry when people didn’t believe the connection, as evidenced by this angry FB post in July 2016: 

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I exercised off an on, even proudly completing a couple of 5k races in 2012 and 2013. I struggled with sticking to a regular workout routine; I would be pretty consistent for a few weeks, sometimes as long as a few months and then would get derailed by illness or injury. In hindsight I realize I was trying to hate and bully my body into health and fitness. News flash. It doesn’t work that way. There was a missing piece; I had to learn to love and connect with my body to finally experience true wellness.


In early 2013 I struggled with suicidal ideation; that story is my “Tenuous Beginning” (read it here) towards cultivating a loving relationship with my body. In late 2013 many of my joints and most of my muscles hurt all the time. I had constant stomach discomfort of every description. I couldn’t think clearly. I fantasized about naps constantly.  

The next few years were an odyssey where I fiercely chose to keep living every. damn. day. All the doctors and specialists I saw told me I would be sick and medicated the rest of my life. Every time an “expert” told me all they could offer was yet another prescription that I would likely never stop taking, I had a deep, inner knowing there was another answer. I continued to cultivate the connection to my body and intuition by practicing every time I was faced with a choice; feeling the sensations as I thought about each option and choosing the one that felt most easeful in my body. I designed my own holistic health care team by following my intuition and noticing the opportunities that were presented to me. I tried all of the healing diet protocols. I did all the damn things.

I learned an astounding amount about myself and discovered my capacity to not just endure, but to triumph despite how much adversity I was handling at the time. I learned I could trust my intuition to orient me in the direction toward was my highest good and I am thankful for every moment of the journey from considering my body to be an adversary to recognizing it as my most profound ally.

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